For when you want to reach out, but still stay in your shell.

Unite in Solitude: Send them the double crab 🦀🦀.

How to signal your affection for people while letting them know that you don’t feel like talking to them. And that you respect that they, even if they miss you, may have no desire to talk to you.

It feels like friendships need tending to, like plants do. Friends are like a bunch of balloons you need to keep in the air. Personally, I also worry about people, and I worry that they might be getting mad at me if I don’t give them the attention they require.

Often I think of someone and want to reach out to them but I also want to be left alone.

I propose a new universal signal for keeping friends and for keeping friends at bay.

Send them the Double Crab.

🦀🦀

It means United In Solitude.

The proper response to this message is:

🦀🦀

By double-crabbing each other, you’ll be both making contact and also leveling any power dynamic that makes one person seem thirstier than the other by saying “I salute your right to be alone and I second that emotion.”

Respectful appreciation of aloneness is a powerful symbol that will help women who worry about people getting mad at them to reach out and pinch someone as if to say, I’m thinking of you and/but let’s both be left alone together.

Or simply add the Double crab after your name as a sign to alert people that you are hermetically inclined.

What better way to connect than to connect about the desire to be left alone?

It somehow makes the world feel less pressured and less lonely and more in agreement with the world around you.

No matter how much you like to be alone, it’s nice to be understood. 🦀🦀

We want to love and be loved and we want to be alone.🦀🦀